$\begin{aligned}
& A={1,2,3} \
& (1,1),(2,2),(3,3),(1,2) \in R
\end{aligned}$
Remaining elements are
(2,1),(2,3),(1,3),(3,1),(3,2)
(1) If relation contains exactly 4 elements = 1 way
(2) if relation contains exactly 5 elements
It can be (1,3),(3,2)⇒2 ways
(3) If relation contain exactly 6 elements
It can be ((2,3),(1,3)),((1,3),(3,2)),((3,1),(3,2))
⇒3 ways.
Total =6 ways